Hi
As you've rightly said the cost of delta sharing is not in the compute but in the egress costs. I would also ignore the GetObject costs as these again will probably be negligible, around $0.0004 per 1000 get object requests.
So the egress charges is where you may need a solution. Has this been rolled out yet? and do you have a concept of the scale of the likely egress bill. Again you have a certain amount of egress for free, so it may be worth monitoring to see if it's actually a sizeable amount. Remember you'll only be paying egress if it's to a different cloud/region. if you do need to so this I think you would look to query the system audit table for query numbers by user by table. I would then create a reference table of all the relative table sizes in my catalog and use this to apportion costs.
Query to get to how many times a user has used the delta share
SELECT
event_time,
event_date,
action_name,
user_identity.email AS recipient_email,
source_ip_address,
request_params['share'] AS share_name,
request_params['schema'] AS schema_name,
request_params['name'] AS table_name,
response.status_code AS status_code,
response.error_message AS error_message
FROM system.access.audit
WHERE action_name LIKE 'deltaSharing%'
-- Uncomment and set a share name to filter to a specific share:
-- AND request_params['share'] = '<your_share_name>'
AND event_date >= current_date() - INTERVAL 30 DAYS
ORDER BY event_time DESC
The following is a reference of the actions:

I hope this helps.
Thanks,
Emma